question about divorce

[Avalanche2082]

I have been married for a year and I think my wife is going to divorce me. How long do you have to be married to qualifiy for alimony? My wife has supported me since we were in high school. We have been together 10 years. We have also lived together 7 of those years. I am on all kinds of medication and she has always told me I don't need to work and it's hard for me to with the medication I'm on. I have serious neck and back problems along with depression and anxiety. I have no work history and I feel like I am helpless. Also what is a postnuptial agreement? Are they unbreakable? Are they worth getting? What ways can they be broken? ANy help with what I can do as I am technically handicapped and will be out on the street and am unable to work enough to live?

[flt mech]

Well first why do you think she is going to divorce you?  Have you tried talking to her?  What has changed iin the past year/ or what hasn't changed?  Can you work from home or anything like that?  So far there are too many unknowns.  Just that your here asking for divorce advice makes it seem like you two are not talking and just doing your own things.  Try talking, to her!

[Avalanche2082]

We do talk and still live together she is starting to act very weird, lying to me, texting strange phone numbers that I don't know. I changed our cell phone plans to another service provider and we got new number and she starts getting really mad at me because she has people she has to talk to on her old phone.

[jayman]

You have to be married for more than 5 years for alimony

[CABLEGUY1]

Just curious,but how does someone that is unable to work,on several medications,and suffering from anxiety and depression stumble across a website for ATV riding? Not that there's anything wrong with it ,I'm just curious. Being together sharing the same household for ten years seems like it would fall under the common law category. If she wont tell you why she is unhappy than you may be in trouble,however if she tells you tha problem than you may be able to fix it and stay together.You didn't mention whether you wanted to stay together though.

[4fittyr]

CALL DR PHIL   OR OPRAH   

[AintSkeered]

Get professional counseling, period, before you can't afford it(wife leaves or you're left on your own by our politicians).

[Mudneck]

Ive seen this post on here before.Get a job,kill the chick,move on simple!

Doesnt this belong in polititcs

[BeReasonable]

Ive seen this post on here before.Get a job,kill the chick,move on simple!

Doesnt this belong in polititcs

If he would have killed her when they first met he would be getting out about now.

To me it sounds as if he could care less about her and his only concern is that he will be taken care of by way of alimony (which I am not sure exists in this state I would need to research it) .

[renmus]

Ive seen this post on here before.Get a job,kill the chick,move on simple!

Doesnt this belong in polititcs

Only variation to the last post was that there was another girl in the mix.

[Keeter]

Ive seen this post on here before.Get a job,kill the chick,move on simple!

Doesnt this belong in polititcs

Only variation to the last post was that there was another girl in the mix.

Yes, and he had to watch them have sex with each other without him. 

[foreman1]

You're better off seeking professional help , public forums are no place to discuss your personal problems , especially a disaster like divorce.

[CABLEGUY1]

Ive seen this post on here before.Get a job,kill the chick,move on simple!

Doesnt this belong in polititcs

Only variation to the last post was that there was another girl in the mix.

Yes, and he had to watch them have sex with each other without him. 

That would suck. 


Unless they're hot of course.

[nwfjeff]

mmmmmmm two chicks

[Fourplayindirt]

 You won't get any sympathy here. This is a site for riding, hunting, and drinking. Other than that, your on your own!!

[MudMan]

You won't get any sympathy here. This is a site for riding, hunting, and drinking. Other than that, your on your own!!

maybe not from you.....other people might have gone through a similar situation and might be able to help him out

And this site is much more than that......if you dont believe me check out the political threads LOL

[Fourplayindirt]

 I was saying it to be sarcastic. I've seen all kinds of post on here and the majority of responses are non caring and derogatory. It seems like people are more willing to criticize and berate someone instead of support. This may be a forum that has been around for a while, but the moral value of friendship and comradery has declined.
  I've only seen several members who act in good nature, most seem to think their reign is supreme and if you defy their opinion...your outcast.
  I think I'm going over to FloridaATV. I've gone to the Motoplex with the members from there and the unity was staggering. I haven't seen anything like it from this site and it's members in a long time.
   Now...I'll wait for the big boys from this site with their threats and opinions on how their saints!!

[Fourplayindirt]

   I feel for you Avalanche. Relationships can go from beautiful, to a total nightmare. No matter what, your still alive and that's always something to be greatful for. When you've reached the bottom of the barrel, at least you know it can't get any worse. Sometimes a fresh start is what you have to do.
   Any situation is possible, that's what life should teach you. Don't look to anyone but yourself to help yourself. When you think you can rely on other people to understand your worst situation, they would rather run away to keep their position pleasant. The only thing you can rely on is your prayer.

[TRX450R_Racer]

I was saying it to be sarcastic. I've seen all kinds of post on here and the majority of responses are non caring and derogatory. It seems like people are more willing to criticize and berate someone instead of support. This may be a forum that has been around for a while, but the moral value of friendship and comradery has declined.
  I've only seen several members who act in good nature, most seem to think their reign is supreme and if you defy their opinion...your outcast.
  I think I'm going over to FloridaATV. I've gone to the Motoplex with the members from there and the unity was staggering. I haven't seen anything like it from this site and it's members in a long time.
   Now...I'll wait for the big boys from this site with their threats and opinions on how their saints!!

With an attitude like that, what kind of responses do you expect. Also how is anyone supposed to know you are being sarcastic..........uuhhhhhhhh we can't hear the tone of your voice and you didn't use any smiley faces. You are acting like the people you just ridiculed. Since you're from FloridaATV you must be perfect.

[Fourplayindirt]

 I wasn't berating anyone. I was merely stating what I see on this site.

[TRX450R_Racer]

Also this site has close to 8,000 members. FloridaATV has less then 1200. That has something to do with it too. Plus you weren't around for Avalance's original post. Here it is

Hi, I was wondering if any of you have ever gotten divorced and gotten alimony from your wife? My wife and I are not getting along and she has always told me I don't need to work I am somewhat disabled but not enough to get disability, she will take care of me and she has, we have been together 10 years and married since Dec. 2007. I just can not stand to be around her anymore because of the things she has done to me. We also have another woman who lives with us and she is her girlfriend and my girlfriend if you get my drift. Now, is there any possibilty I could get alimony as she has supported me finacially. How much does a divorce cost what is the possibility of me getting any money, she owns all our assets. Any suggestions as to what to do. If some day she does become very sucessful and has a lot of money can she try to to take away my alimony if it was possible for me to get any. I need help!

[686RAPTOR]

i like the original post better dude has 2 girl friends and wants money back. nice

[Fourplayindirt]

  Yes my friend, you screwed yourself with that one. Just remember you had some fun for a little while, but the joyride ended. You need to make something for yourself, not from your girl. I divorced also, but I left the house and everything for her and the kids. She wanted custody and the house and she got it.
   The only thing I asked for was one of the two big flat panel TV's... she broke one and left it for me. Woman are devil's in dresses!! You just have to move on and be smarter.